Ashi Singhal

The struggle of not being able to say no is most often linked with not knowing “what to say” and “how to say it”.

It’s the search for “What words should I use to say no?”

But saying no is not all about the words.

It’s mainly about claiming one’s own needs AND working through the trap of thoughts and feelings that hold you back from saying no.

Think about it.

What thoughts do you get in your head when you want to say no?

"Maybe I’m overthinking it. I don’t even need to say no…"

"Nah. It’s futile to say no. I know they won’t even listen to me…"

"What if they take my no in the wrong way? Won’t that affect my job…?"

Etc.

Such thoughts then stir the feelings of fear, anxiety, nervousness, doubts, resentment, anger…

These feelings then fuel those thoughts further, making it a vicious cycle.

And in this cycle, your wish to say no ends up suffocating itself to helplessness.

“I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I can never say no...”

Each of us goes through this cycle. And it's okay.

In this ebook, you'll learn to break this cycle and deal with discomfort which NO brings in your system. 

Our aim won’t be to not ever encounter this discomfort (because it’s impossible). Our aim will be to encounter this discomfort and still be able to say no confidently.

You will:

• understand ways to identify and question the beliefs which make no difficult for you.
• get a roadmap to manage your feelings and thoughts when they stop you from saying no.
• learn all of this by diving into THREE detailed day-to-day scenarios where you’re required to say no.

Scenario #1: Saying no to an offered opportunity

Scenario #2: Saying no to unwanted conversations

Scenario #3: Saying no to someone asking for your help

Each scenario is explained in a separate chapter — Not just with the roadmap of working through the thoughts and feelings. But also with the templates which you can copy paste to say no in any kind of communication — be it virtual or in-person; be it personal or professional.

The tips used in these scenarios can easily be used in other scenarios. Because it’s about mindset. Once you develop that mindset (which you will in these chapters), you’ll find it easier to say no in other scenarios as well.

There are seven chapters to help you bridge the gap between “I can’t say no…” and “I was wrong. I can say no…”

We’ll call out your beliefs, thoughts and feelings which have been making no difficult for you. But we’ll do it with deep curiosity and compassion for self.

Thus, please keep your harsh criticism and belittling judgments for self at bay while beginning this ebook.

Know that it’s abso-freakin-lutely okay if you’ve struggled with no.

The good thing is you’re aware of your struggle :)

Now it's time to get curious and smash your limiting beliefs of “I can’t say no”.

So dive in.

Grab your copy right away! 

I'll see you in the ebook,

Ashi